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Wednesday, July 29, 2009

"my own" little protest

Tom Davis has asked that 500 people blog about the movie Orphan and I was happy to participate for several reasons. For one, I find the movie irresponsible and damaging to the millions of fatherless waiting for their own family and secondly, adoption has changed my life for the better.

"Warner Bros. new horror movie Orphan proclaims that it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own. Let me tell you about how an orphan changed my life..."

It always bugs me when people say, oh, you have four of your own and you adopted Abe....or something like that. NO, I have 5 (almost 6) of my own, 2 just came via adoption and 4 biologically. I realize the majority say these things simply due to lack of education and not to hurt, but the quote from the movie just strikes a chord as Abe couldn't be more "my own"!! From that first moment he was placed in my arms-- MINE!

I say all the time that adoption is the best thing that we have ever done! I mean it. It changed all of us. The kids now get that joy isn't contingent upon "things" as they became friends with the happiest children who literally have nothing. They saw extreme poverty, mothers relinquishing their children and in the midst of all of that-- they saw Jesus.

All of us have been given the gift of SEEING Him work in Abe's life on a daily basis. We watch him progress beyond any medical expectation, we watch his absolute love for life and you can't NOT be changed. Abe makes all of us better.

We now know far more than we ever thought we would about neurologists, EEG's, therapy, brain development, adaptive equipment, etc but we wouldn't change any of that for the blessing of getting SO much more of HIM than we ever would have if Abe were typically developing. We experience a real, tangible, Presence of the Lord as He comes along side of us in our journey. Suffering with equal amounts of beauty. Hard to explain, but real non the less.

Abe gives us that- and I trust that the precious little boy behind this smile will bless us as well. I simply can't wait to SEE how the Lord continues to work in our family through the miracle of adoption.

Join me in Defending the casue of the Orphan.... From Tom Davis' blog:
This is the opportunity to defend the cause of the orphan. But instead of cursing the darkness, lets put the truth on display.

Tom is challenging his readers and friends to write 500 positive blog posts about how an orphan has impacted and changed your life. Post this on your own blog so that when people search for the movie, they are flooded with positive messages about adoption and orphan care.

Just finish this sentence: "Warner Bros. new horror movie Orphan proclaims that it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own. Let me tell you about how an orphan changed my life..."

This is the heart of defending orphans. Help push back the darkness and deceit here by holding up as an example the powerful love that adoption and orphan care can unleash.

Heres how you can defend the orphan:
1. Write a "positive protest post" on you blog that references the movie, Orphan.
2. Focus on your orphan care or adoption story that is positive, redeeming, and full of love.
3. Link your post to
4. Send out an email, Facebook message, or tweet to get others to do the same thing on their blogs.


darci said...

i love this! Praise the Lord for His goodness in our lives . I love what you said "five, almost six, of MY OWN!" you're so right!

jody said...

oh i HATE when people say "so that one is adopted-are the rest your own?" what?! like we are just renting one of them or something??? yuck. but that movie?? beyond yuck. people just do NOT think about who is on the other side of the things they do.

Melissa said...

You go girl! Amen!

The Albertsons said...

amen sister.

Jen said...


Bill said...

Thank you, Em, for your strong and beautiful and true response to the false statement about it being hard to love an orphan as your own. Let me say for grandparents as well that little Abe is as much "ours" and loved as deeply as those eleven others the Lord chose to give us through natural, biological births.
And you state so well how Abe is teaching us all about love, patience, joy, perseverance, courage, determination, and gratitude.
How grateful we are that the Lord Jesus calls all those who are His, "adopted"!

This is posting as "Bill"

nancy said...

Thank you, Emily. That statement also hurts me (though I know most people don't mean it to hurt), but both our kids were adopted (though our son looks exactly like us) and they are both my OWN.
Abe looks amazing--his smile is huge and he his obviously getting so strong. thanks for sharing your journey with us.

Anonymous said...

That movie looks horrible! I actually told Brandon I was scared after seeing the previews. It certainly is a horrible way to depict adoption and orphans in general. Every child/parent I have known being involved in adoption have become better people for it! I may not be here if the Lord had not called my great grandparents to adopt!!!

PS--Miss you...hoping to see you soon!

Rebecca said...

THANK YOU! I was so upset that anyone would make a movie like that. Thank you for taking something potentially so negative and make it incredibly positive!!

The Porter Family said...

Thank you for this post and thank you for showing us what this journey is all about.

Amy Jo said...

Great post. Your passion for your family comes shining through.

There are so many crazy comments that people make - I'm sad to say that I still accidentally make some's like the words come out and then I realize that what I said wasn't really what I meant. I pray that's true for some of the comments adoptive parents receive - that the speaker just doesn't know better and their intention is not to hurt. HOWEVER, when our precious children are present and listening - well, that's another story. :-(

Praying sweet blessings upon your family!

Amy Bottomly said...

love the post Emily!

Cheryl said...

Amen! Well said Friend!

Lori said...

I'd rather be hateful and dark and just plain boycott these jerks! ;)

Half serious...

Awesome babe!

Kari said...

We will continue to advocate & bring awareness about orphans. I love that we are ALL orphans, but when we fall in love with Jesus... follow Him, we are adopted!! I'm grateful and thankful to God for making me his own daughter!
Love your post, Emily!!

Tom Davis said...

Love your story and the post Emily. Thanks!

Anonymous said...

Love you!!! Amen Amen Amen...
We get that even though, all of ours are adopted just two stateside and then have to deal with the look of...
Oh you have none of your OWN. yes, they all belong to the Lord and are given to us...


Keva said...

Well said dear friend! Someone just said to me last night..."oh i thought Micah was yrs, i mean i knew Isaac was adopted but Micah i had no idea." Its just ignorance.

You look great, cant wait to see the next little one(;


Anna Grace`s Jie Jie said...

This is awesome!!

Sam said...

emily do you want me to take something over
email me at

Charissa said...

You have a beautiful family. :) We too are adding a little bit of color to our family, and I have to say, I can't wait!!

Oatsvall Team said...

amen sister ... if anyone who reads my blog goes and sees this movie then they don't know me at all ...

love ya Gertie

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